Things to remember when having the talk with your parents

Having "The Talk" with your parents is a daunting task for many families we support. 

"How am I going to prepare Mum for the situation when the family can't always be there to care for her? How can I tell dad he could really benefit from a carer?

As with most things, there will never be a perfect time to have these conversations. I suggest, however, that you consider approaching the conversation sooner rather than later.

Here are 4 things to remember when having the conversation about the future with your parents:

1. Timing is everything

Find a time when your loved ones are most at ease - preferably when it's just you and your family without distractions. 

2. Listen, don't tell

We all prefer to be listened to, rather than told what to do. Even if your parent's goals are unrealistic, it's important to understand they may be going through a lot of changes and loss, so approach with care. Reassure them that you understand their wishes and you want the best for them.

3. Find a neutral ground

If other family members and siblings will be present, get together ahead of time and discuss the ideal outcome and who can contribute what.

4. Leave with a plan

This will create the next steps. Remember to take advantage of the tools available, including the legal power of attorney if necessary.

Lastly, after the conversation, do something fun and rewarding as a family. Go out to dinner, play a game- something you all enjoy.

At Home Instead, we've guided many families through situations such as these, and we understand the difficulties. If we can help you and your family, please give us a call on 02393 190091 and we'll be happy to help in any way we can.