Seven Tips to Help You Communicate With Your Ageing Parents 

Many adult children of aging adults know how difficult it can be to talk with their parents about certain topics. Following, from Home Instead and communication expert Jake Harwood, Ph.D., from the University of Arizona, are tips to help family caregivers communicate with their aging parents on sensitive subjects.

1. Get Started.

If you’re 40 or your parents are 70, it’s time to start observing and gathering information carefully and thoughtfully. Don’t reach a conclusion from a single observation and decide on the best solution until you have gathered information with an open mind and talked with your parents.

2. Talk It Out. 

Approach your parents with a conversation. Discuss what you’ve observed and ask your parents what they think is going on. If your parents acknowledge the situation, ask what they think would be good solutions. If your parents don’t recognize a problem, use concrete examples to support your case.

3. The Sooner, The Better.

Talk sooner rather than later when a crisis has occurred. If you know your loved one has poor eyesight or has trouble driving at night, begin to address those issues before a problem arises.

4. Forget The Baby Talk.

Remember you are talking to an adult, not a child. Patronizing speech or baby talk will put older adults on the defensive and convey a lack of respect for them. Put yourself in your parents’ shoes and think of how you would want to be addressed in the situation.

5. Maximize Independence.

Always try to move toward solutions that provide the maximum amount of independence for the older person. Look for answers that optimize strengths and compensate for problems. For instance, if your loved ones need help at home, look for tools that can help them maintain their strengths. Professional caregiving services, such as those offered by Home Instead, provide assistance in a number of areas including meal preparation, light housekeeping or medication reminders. Or find friends who can help.

6. Be Aware Of The Whole Situation. 

If your dad dies and soon afterwards your mum’s house seems to be in disarray, it’s probably not because she suddenly became ill. It’s much more likely to stem from a lack of social support and the loss of a life-long relationship. Make sure that your mum has friends and a social life.

7. Ask For Help.

Many of the issues of aging can be solved by providing parents with the support they need to continue to maintain their independence. Resources such as local social clubs and senior centres can help provide those solutions.

For more information contact the office on 01707 240 650. Or follow the link.

Request Home Care Services

Home Instead Senior Care CAREGivers
Family welcoming a Home Instead care manager into their home