Coping With Grief

For over a year, many of us have been going through a difficult time in our lives. Whilst things are finally getting back to normal, a number of us are still grieving after the loss of a friend or family member due to the pandemic, or by other means,  and now is a really important time to address those feelings.

Grieving is often not one feeling. It can be a range of feelings such as shock, numbness, agitation, guilt, anger, regret, sadness and in some cases depression. It is important to remember there is no right or wrong way to act and others go through similar emotions.

Here are some suggestions which may help if you find yourself grieving over the loss of a loved one:

1) Take each day as it comes and do not fight the emotions you feel. Acknowledge that you are grieving and give yourself some time to think, whether those feelings are positive or negative. If you find you are crying a lot, let this happen, for some it’s an important part of dealing with loss and it will give you some release.

2) If you are feeling alone, talk to someone who you trust about what happened and why you are struggling. It’s good to have a listening ear.

3) If you do not wish to talk to those close to you, search for a local bereavement group. Some people find it helps to go to a support group and talk to others who are going through the same thing.

4) Self care during this time is of great importance. Try to eat healthily, get as much sleep as possible and exercise when you can. 

5) Be patient with yourself. It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.

6) Seek outside help when necessary. If your grief seems like it is too much to bear, seek professional assistance to help work through your grief. It's a sign of strength, not weakness, to seek help.

It is not easy to cope after a loved one dies. You may not ever stop missing them, but the pain eases after time and allows you to go on with your life. With support, patience and effort, you will survive grief. In the future,  the pain will lessen, leaving you with cherished memories of your loved one.

At Home Instead Brighton, Hove and Shoreham we accompany many families through the ageing journey to ensure loved ones continue living independently and maintain a healthy, happy lifestyle. We listen, respond and tailor our services to your needs. If you would like to speak to someone at Home Instead Brighton, Hove and Shoreham please don’t hesitate to get in touch - you can call Liz on 01273 284090 or email [email protected].