High Quality Care at Home
We are often asked how do you start that ‘ Care’ conversation?
How can we help families with elderly parents enjoy care at home, along side positive steps made by the family? Here we talk though some ideas to help families introduce care and support for the first time. "The Best home to be in is your own”
Whilst some elderly fight vehemently to maintain independence, others see it as their ‘duty’ to stoically care for a failing spouse.
A wife may see it as her ‘duty’ to care for an ailing husband and similarly an elderly husband, who fears losing his failing wife will do anything to care for her and keep her at home.
Equally Daughters caught in that sandwich generation of caring for children and parents, might well feel torn between loyalties and simply having enough time to care for all.
Most worries lie around starting that initial conversation. How am I going to tell Mum that she needs someone to make sure she gets up and out of bed safely each day, and to help with her medications? How am I going to tell Dad that he would be happier with a companion during the day and someone to take him shopping?
Few adults will admit they need help, even when they are struggling. Often they fear they will become a burden on someone else, or completely lose their independence. This can become a difficult topic to discuss and can lead to arguments when brought up.
Tip #1: Don’t say “you need a carer”.
This is one of the best tips that we have used with our own Clients. Don’t tell your parents that they need a CAREGiver to monitor or assist them! Instead, explain that they have reached a point in their lives where they deserve a personal assistant to help make life easier. A successful way to explain this is to use an example from the working world.r eg: in an office, you might have an assistant to help with everyday tasks.
Tip #2: Include your parents in the decision-making process.
Your parent will be the one spending the most time with the CAREGiver, so it is important that their personalities, interests and hobbies are a strong match. At Home Instead Altrincham, Sale and whythenshawe we spend time getting to know the client, to understand them as a person; their interests, hobbies, and to discuss what sort of caring person they are looking for. Allowing your parents to express their own interests and thoughts, means that they’ll be more likely to welcome their CAREGiver into their lives. You might be surprised who turns out to be their favourite CAREGiver!
Tip #3: Strike while the irons hot!
Many Families have remarked in the past that once their parent had spoken to an “expert” they were re-assured of the value of a companion/home help or personal assistant. Similar to when a Doctor suggests a certain pathway, it is more likely to be accepted than when you suggest a remedy! We do not charge for the initial home visit and you are under no obligation to proceed with us.
Tip #4: This is just a starting point ‘a trial’
Now you’ve completed the challenging job of helping your parent accept that they need some extra support, it’s important that they continue to feel in control. Maybe now is the time for some ‘low level’ assistance or companionship, they will feel that they are keep their independence, and their well-being will improve with a professional CAREGiver. Over time, when more personal support is needed, bespoke care will be seen as a positive, rather than an invasion on their home life.
So remember, start that care at home conversation early! A little well-placed, professional help promotes independence and can actively encourage clients to save their energy for favourite Hobbies and activities.
Well chosen, bespoke care, enhances lives and enables a person to remain independent and in their own home for as long as possible. This is after all what we all hope and wish for. "The Best home to be in is your own”
Please feel free to speak to our Client team on 0161 870 1136