The Sandwich Generation
Do you ever feel like you’re bouncing between two or even three very different lives? Welcome to the world of the 'Sandwich Generation'.
Do you ever feel like you’re bouncing between two very different lives?
One minute, you’re sorting out the school run, hunting for a missing football boot, and helping with a science project that somehow requires papier-mâché and glitter at 9pm. The next, you’re calling your mum to check she’s taken her medication or eaten her dinner, whilst simultaneously organising a GP appointment for her.
Welcome to the world of the ‘Sandwich Generation’ — adults often in their 40s, 50s or 60s, caring for both children and ageing parents, all while holding down jobs and trying to maintain some semblance of a personal life.
And here at Home Instead Ilkley, Skipton and Settle, we’re seeing it more and more. Families who are juggling dual responsibilities, often without realising that what they’re doing is extraordinary — and exhausting.
Why This Role Can Be So Tough
Unlike becoming a parent, there’s no official “starting point” when it comes to caring for your parents. Small check-ins become part of the daily routine and full-blown care planning. And all the while, the demands of your kids, your career, and your own wellbeing haven’t gone anywhere.
The emotional toll is real. You might feel pulled in two directions — never quite enough for anyone, always falling short somewhere. There’s guilt, worry, and a constant low-level stress that can wear down even the most resilient among us.
What Can Help?
If this sounds like your reality, know that you’re far from alone, the BBC have reported on the growing number of families who are finding themselves in this position. If this is you, here are a few ideas that might just help:
- Let go of the “superhuman” act.
You are one person. It’s OK to not be available for every bake sale, every pharmacy run, every email. Prioritise what matters most right now and remember that “good enough” is still really, really good.
- Use a shared calendar.
Even if you’re the family organiser, don’t carry it all in your head. A shared family calendar (digital or a paper one on the fridge) can help offload the mental burden and get others involved in planning.
- Speak to your workplace.
More companies now recognise the pressures of caregiving. Whether it’s flexible hours or a carer’s policy, support might be available — but only if you ask.
- Consider professional support.
Many families we speak to feel like getting help means giving up control. In reality, it’s often the opposite. Bringing in home care support can take the pressure off and let you be a daughter, son, or parent again — not just a carer. We can support you to have the conversation about care and then provide you with flexible, tailored, compassionate support that fits around your life.
You Don’t Have To Do It Alone
The ‘Sandwich Generation’ might be growing, but so is the support available to you. At Home Instead Ilkley, Skipton & Settle, we’re here to walk beside you. Whether you’re just starting to support your parents or are already deep into the juggling act, we’re ready to listen and create a plan that fits your family’s needs. Get in touch with us today to find out more.
