How to Help Your Child Talk to a Grandparent with Dementia

When a grandparent is living with dementia, it can be confusing and emotional for younger family members. Children may not understand why someone they love behaves differently, forgets their name, or struggles to hold a conversation. As adults, it’s natural to want to protect them, but, open and gentle communication can help children stay connected, build empathy, and continue to enjoy meaningful time with their grandparent.

At Home Instead Windsor, Runnymede & West Spelthorne, we often support families navigating these moments. Through our work with clients and their loved ones, we’ve seen how children can bring light and laughter into the lives of grandparents living with dementia. With a little understanding and reassurance, those bonds can remain strong and comforting for everyone involved.

Here are a few simple ways to help:

👂 Use honest, age-appropriate language.
Explain dementia in clear, simple terms that match your child’s age. You might say, “Grandad’s memory isn’t working the way it used to, so he might forget things or get confused, but he still loves you very much.”

🖼 Focus on shared activities.
Connection doesn’t always need words. Looking at family photos, reading favourite stories, colouring, or listening to music together can spark joy and memories. These moments remind children that love doesn’t disappear, even when memories fade.

😊 Reassure them it’s the condition that’s changing, not the person they love.
Children may worry that their grandparent is “different” or “doesn’t love them anymore.” Let them know it’s the dementia that causes changes in behaviour, not their relationship.

🎶 Celebrate the little moments of joy.
A smile, a laugh, a shared song, or a simple hug can mean the world. Encourage your child to notice and cherish those moments, they often create lasting, positive memories.

Talking openly helps children stay connected and builds understanding that lasts a lifetime. And for families living with dementia, these small, tender interactions remind everyone that connection is still possible — it just takes a little patience, empathy, and love.

If you’d like more guidance or support, our team at Home Instead Windsor, Runnymede & West Spelthorne offers dementia-friendly home care that helps families stay close and connected.

📞 Call us on 01784 477854
🌐 Visit homeinstead.co.uk/windsor-runnymede