Things to say – it’s good to talk!
A serious illness can create powerful emotions and affect a person’s behaviour. After a cancer diagnosis, you may be irritable, upset or angry; you may cry a lot or withdraw, making it difficult to talk to those around you.
It’s very common to have various feelings, ranging from shock, denial and fear to sadness, anger, guilt and blame. There is no right or wrong way to feel, and you will cope with things in your own way.
Here are some ways you can deal with your feelings by talking:
Talking about your feelings can help you stay in good mental health and deal with your diagnosis when you have times of feeling negative. It’s part of taking charge of your wellbeing and doing what you can to stay healthy.
When a cancer diagnosis comes, there is a lot to consider, and one of those things is making sure that you have sufficient care planned out to keep you as well looked after as possible. So, it’s a good idea to sort out the practical, legal and financial aspects of your life to give you peace of mind. Some of these things may be uncomfortable to deal with but sorting them out in advance will let you focus on the best possible outcome.
Make a plan and build your team; this should include the following:
‘Don’t let your imagination run away with you. A good rule of thumb is to stick to what you know is true. ’ – Cancer Research UK
Having a cancer diagnosis can be a lonely experience, and whilst talking and taking action helps, so does listening. It would help if you listened out for:
Listening helps you stay connected and calm and reduces feelings of isolation and anxiety. This will help you stay positive.
Staying positive after a cancer diagnosis isn’t easy. However, there are so many things you can say, do, and listen out for that make a real difference to your wellbeing. There are plenty of people you can speak to who will make you feel better, and getting busy with practical things will help you cope, as procrastination can create anxiety and fear. Finally, make sure you listen out for the things that can help you stay connected and calm and reduce feelings of isolation and anxiety.