There is a lot of talk today of Baby Boomers now becoming the Sandwich Generation, which is an interesting description of a generation who find that at a time of life when they would be expecting to have true ‘me’ time, they are increasingly being pulled between supporting children, and even grandchildren, while finding that their ageing parents are needing their help more and more.
This happened in my own family. When my children were little and the demands of work increased I found myself relying increasingly on my in-laws to help out with looking after the kids – particularly during school holiday times. But at the same time the Grans, both in their seventies were getting older and needing more support. Usually it was help with day to day jobs such as shopping, cleaning and housekeeping while having a good gossip about what was on the TV last night over a cup of tea. There just weren’t enough hours in the day and in the end my mum-in-law took early retirement so she had the time to balance the two activities, which she dearly loved to do.
But trying to keep everybody happy, is often at the expense of ‘you’ time. Longed for holidays get put on hold, downsizing the house goes out of the window as the kids and entourage need somewhere to stay, or elderly relatives move in, the extra time you thought you’d have after retirement seems to vanish in the haze, and I remember my Mum in law saying that she didn’t know how she’d had the time to fit work in.
I know that there will be many people reading this that can relate to my own families situation, and with Christmas fast approaching, with the added stresses and strains that this can bring, I also know that there will be some thinking ‘how on earth will I be able to cope?’
There is an answer, support for you and your family is available in the Telford, Newport and Bridgnorth areas. It may just be helping out with the grocery shopping, making sure that someone is making a fuss of mum and dad leaving you to concentrate on the grandchildren or even being there to help with transport on Christmas Day. I started Home Instead Senior Care for this exact reason, to help families and their loved ones, to reduce the worry and stress that comes from trying to look after everyone, and to enable all the family maintain their quality of life as elderly loved ones become older and needing more help. To find out more about how we can help you this Festive Season please call 01952 581112.
Go on, this year, give yourself a Christmas present and have a break, you deserve it!