Being a Family Carer: How Much is Too Much?

Being a Family Carer: How Much is Too Much?

Looking after Mum as she becomes more frail, or supporting Dad as his dementia progresses, is a reality for many families across the UK. Family means everything, so wanting to be there for the people you love feels natural and important. But when your loved one’s needs begin to grow, it’s just as important to recognise when you might need a little extra support too.

At Home Instead Beverley & Hull, we understand that caring for an ageing parent or relative can be both rewarding and demanding. Our research shows that around a third of family carers feel close to breaking point, while two thirds say they struggle with their mental health. The good news is that help is available, and you don’t have to face this journey alone.

Recognising the Signs You Might Need More Support

Every family carer’s experience is unique, but here are some signs that you might benefit from additional help or respite care:

• Feeling isolated or overwhelmed: It’s easy to feel like nobody truly understands what you’re going through. Reaching out for help can connect you with others who do understand.
• Becoming stressed or exhausted: When your days are full and your nights are restless, your wellbeing can suffer. Taking a break is not selfish, it’s essential for both you and your loved one.
• Juggling too many roles: From booking appointments to offering emotional support, family carers often wear many hats. It’s okay to share those responsibilities with others.
• Struggling to balance work and caring: Taking time away from work to help your loved one can be stressful. Talking to your employer or arranging home care support can make things easier.
• Neglecting other relationships: It’s natural to feel torn between caring for your parent and spending time with other family members. Finding the right care at home service can help restore balance.
• Feeling there’s no end in sight: Caring can feel all-consuming, especially if your loved one’s condition is long-term. Having the right support network in place can help you feel more in control.

Where to Find Support for Family Carers

You’re not alone in this. Across the UK, there are many ways to access guidance and practical help:

• Social prescribers: Your GP can refer you to a social prescriber who connects you with local activities, support groups and services to boost your wellbeing.
• Condition-specific organisations: Charities like Alzheimer’s Society in Hull & East Riding, Parkinson’s UK and others offer tailored advice and local groups across the East Riding where you can meet others who understand your challenges.
• Age UK Hull & East Yorkshire: Offers trusted advice on all aspects of caring, from financial support to maintaining your health and wellbeing.
• Re-Engage UK: Provides social activities and companionship for older people, giving family carers valuable time for themselves.

How Home Instead Can Help You and Your Loved One

At Home Instead Beverley & Hull, we’ve supported hundreds of families locally with compassionate, flexible home care services. Whether you need dementia care, personal care, or simply a few hours of companionship care each week, our Care Professionals are here to help your loved one live well at home, and to give you peace of mind.

We know it can be difficult to ask for help, but getting support can make caring for your loved one more sustainable and enjoyable. You’ll have more quality time together, knowing your parent is receiving expert care in the comfort of their own home.

If you’d like to learn more about support for family carers or explore how home care could make a difference for your family, give us a call on 01482 231145. We’d be happy to have a friendly chat and help you find the right solution for you and your loved one.