Visitors to the Vauxhall Centre Carers’ Cafe in Norwich were urged to get talking when they attended a presentation entitled ‘The 40:70 Rule’ delivered by Chris Carter of local at-home care company, Home Instead.
The 40:70 Rule was devised after research revealed that nearly one-third of adult children find it difficult to start conversations about certain life issues with their elderly parents. The idea is that if you are 40+ and your parents are 70+, it’s time to start talking – before an emergency or crisis occurs.
The presentation aimed to help families talk about issues such as finances, independence, and even romance.
Commenting on The 40:70 Rule, Chris Carter, said: “With the UK’s rapidly ageing population more and more adult children will find themselves tongue-tied when dealing with certain issues relating to their elderly parents – what does an adult son say to his mother when she’s reversed the car into a lamp post…again? How does a grown daughter enquire about her widowed father’s new relationship without causing offence? How does an adult son ask his mother if she’s taking her medications like she should?”
Commenting on the talk, Sue Clark, organiser of the Carers’ Cafe said: “Chris’ talk certainly gave us all pause for thought. I am sure that everyone went away feeling better equipped and ready to talk to relatives about issues that they perhaps had been ignoring.”
The Carers’ Cafe, that hosted the talk, provides an opportunity for carers to meet and support each other. It is held on the 4th Tuesday of every month from 1pm to 3pm at the Vauxhall Centre in Norwich. For more information, contact Sue Clark on 01603 626014. Home Instead has a free 40:70 guide to conversation starters, to contact Home Instead call 01603 482116 or visit www.homeinstead.co.uk.