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We are often asked for our advice on caring for someone with dementia. Here are some questions we have been asked. If you need extra help please get in touch.
1. My Mum can get very confused and often loses her memory are there any techniques I can use?
Don't argue with mum if she is wrong. Avoid unnecessary details in conversations, speak simply with short sentences. Break down daily tasks into simple steps and reduce extra noise in the home such as a TV in the background while family are chatting.
2. My partner keeps repeating the same question over and over how can I get him to stop?
Encourage your partner to find the answer. For example if he keeps asking for the time ensure a clock is in view. Repetition is thought to be a comfort measure, sometimes drawing out the conversation can stop the repetition.
3. I keep getting locals calls saying they have found my Grandad, what should I do?
Make sure your Grandad has a piece of identification on him at all times (eg. an ID bracelet) give local shops his photo with your number and explain the situation. Set aside 20 minutes a day for regular exercise with your Grandad to minimise restlessness.
4. My Mum's mood can often change dramatically, how can I deter it?
Filling Mum's day with activities establishes a routine so she won't be so prone to changes. It maybe something that she finds stressful and frustrating, if this is the case try breaking it down into simple steps and give simple choices. If she's in a bad mood apologise and try to distract her by asking her for her help with a simple task around the house.
5. My Dad was determined that someone was upstairs robbing him, how do I deal with this?
React calmly. Assure your Dad you are here to help. Enter his reality, offer to go upstairs with him (or alone if he's uncomfortable) and show him that his valuables are safe. Redirect your dad to a new activity. Understand his triggers for delusions, could he have been watching violent TV shows?
Please say a special thank you to the CAREGivers who Mum loved and trusted. I could not have managed without the support of a great team, especially you Linda.Dr. T. Margate